Stand directly in front of the mirror so you can look the energy vampire squarely in the face.
Understand that the energy vampire is not aware that they are an energy vampire, that they are under the impression that only other people are energy vampires.
Acknowledge that the energy vampire has inherent goodness as much as everyone else does, it’s just that they are suffering from suppressed emotional pain from their childhood.
Inspire the energy vampire to openly face and work through their issues involving emotional co-dependance and lack of self-worth.
Have compassion for the energy vampire and understand that it’s not easy being born into this world, having had to, from a very early age, cope with and protect themselves from many harsh attitudes and behaviors from those around them like criticism, impatience, anger, unloving demands and expectations, demeaning words, disapproving attitudes and even verbal and physical assault, often from the very parents who they depend on for love and protection.
Recognize that being an energy vampire is merely an attempt to attain the love and approval that was so sorely lacking from childhood, and that it is an automatic, unconscious projection originating from an injured heart and soul… not an overt, nefarious scheme to drain others of energy.
Motivate the energy vampire to practice looking within for answers. To develop a longing and curiosity to see and feel the truth of the situation. To be willing to cry and feel any pain that arises throughout this process. To want to end the habit of suppression and perpetuation of the underlying emotional condition.
Support the energy vampire in taking notice of whatever feelings of neediness, expectation or control that come up when interacting with others. To take ownership of such feelings. To be willing to go off somewhere to face those feelings in private rather than projecting them onto others. To do this as many times as it takes until those emotional injuries are eventually all processed and released.
Be kind and loving to the energy vampire throughout the entire process, no matter how long it takes, knowing that it is not easy to face one’s emotional pain in a society that pushes and influences everyone to avoid and numb out their emotional pain.
Frequently remind the energy vampire that they are just as deserving of love and respect as anyone, no matter what the other energy vampires say or do.